So…now that the divorce is final, I’m sure the question will come up from some well meaning soul at some point, “So…ready to get back in to the dating scene?”
And my answer will be straightforward and concise.
No.
I don’t intend to date. I don’t want to meet someone that I have to date. Dating sets all kinds of crazy expectations and weird social mores. Who pays for which meal…what are casual dates…which dates are romantic…when do you have to buy gifts…what date can you kiss on…how long before you call (or text) someone back…blahditty blahblah.
Forget that horse shit.
I want to hang out with people. It’s not a date. We’re hanging out. If we’re hanging out at a movie and you want pop corn and I want Reese’s Pieces…we get them. No weirdness.
Hanging out implies living in the moment. No foreshadowing of future events. If scratch an itch on my calf, it’s just an itch. Not some ancient family way of saying we need to have kids and get a cottage in the country (that always involved elbows anyway). Whatever happens happens, and I’m cool with that.
I don’t know where that came from…other than now that paperwork has been signed…shit’s real. Ya know?
Alright. It’s been a rather long and somewhat trying day. Time for bed.
-AT
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